Before you start yelling at me, please note I said easier, not easy.
What we all secretly desire is to be like those intensely irritating people who can drink just one glass of wine and then stop. The ones who almost seem to forget they have a glass sitting in front of them.
I mean, what is all that about?
Our goal is to be able to cut down. To moderate. To be in control.
Well, I'm really sorry to have to break this to you, but once you're addicted to alcohol (and even seemingly moderate drinkers can be addicted), it might be possible to do all those things, but it is immensely hard work.
The problem with any addiction is that your brain has been wired to want MORE.
(For more on how your brain chemistry has been buggered up by alcohol read this one: Is Moderation Possible? Part 2)
So you either give in and just give it what it wants until you end up the classic low bottom drunk pouring vodka on the cornflakes, or you constantly fight it.
And constantly fighting is exhausting.
It's like being on a never ending diet. The more you try not to do something, the more you want it. The more you attempt not to think about it, the more it preys on your mind.
And, let's face it, we were never very good at restraint, moderation and denial in the first place, were we? That's what got us into this mess!
I know that sounds all rather depressing, so here's the GOOD NEWS....
You can fix it.
Remember when you were a child and all you were really bothered about was learning to do a wheelie on your new Chopper, and whether it was a better idea to spend your pocket money on a Sherbet Dib Dab or some Space Dust? You spent no time at all thinking about booze. Cherry Cola maybe.
Well, you really can go back there. Not to the 1970's, obviously (who'd want to?), but to a place where you don't have to worry about drinking, or not drinking, or how much drinking, or what you did while drinking, or anything at all to do with drinking.
All you need to do is to STOP. For long enough.
The tricky bit is that initially, instead of thinking about booze less, you'll think about it more. That's the addiction talking. The wily old wine witch putting up a fight.
You have to kill the old crone, and the only way to do that is to starve her of alcohol for long enough.
It takes around 100 days to get through the worst, and about six months before you start to feel completely free.
BUT, be warned, as soon as you have a drink, you breathe life back into the wine witch, and your addict brain is back with a vengeance.
(Read my post: The Obstacle Course for more on this one).
Please believe me, once you're out the other side (and you will get there) it's EASY. And you think why on earth did I struggle for so long?
Then it's your job to spread the word....
Love SM x